27 May Time for a Change?
How do you know when it’s time to make a change in your life? Do you listen to the signs and signals your body sends, or do you stay in work situations, romantic relationships, and friendships way past their expiration date? Are you a person who holds on for too long?
Developing a better connection to the wisdom your body offers will help you on the path to living your truth.
Let’s talk about your current internal condition. Right now, I want you to think of any situation that you think needs to change. Whether it is ending a friendship, breaking up with a romantic partner, leaving job, etc. As you hold that situation in your mind, what feelings get kicked up when you visualize actually taking the leap to make the change? Your body has most likely been giving you signs for a while that something needs to change. It might be a gut feeling, a racing heart, a headache, a feeling of dread, tightness in your chest, distractibility, feeling fatigued, or an inability to sleep. Your body will tell you something is wrong before your mind will recognize the same truth.
Your body is constantly sending you signals, and the body’s reactions hold the answers to your mind’s questions.
The mind is a complex beast. It has a catalog of defense mechanisms at its disposal designed to help us avoid feeling emotional distress. And the kicker is we employ these defense mechanisms unconsciously. Under stress, we can over-analyze, project, intellectualize, rationalize, displace, or flat out deny blatant facts to avoid feeling the pain of a hard truth. But, our bodies are more instinctual, and our subconscious can communicate with us through visceral sensations in the body. In other words, our bodies do not lie.
The question is are you listening? I want to challenge you to become conscious of the way your body feels when you are faced with a tough decision.
A common response to difficult decision-making is confusion. When you are at a crossroads, your fear mind might be telling you to do one thing, but your body (instinct) might be telling you to do something else. Your mind tells you that you are confused, which prolongs and sometimes completely shuts down the decision-making process. This is when tapping into the profound power and wisdom of your body can help move you forward.
So, when you are confused, STOP and FEEL what your body is telling you. You may find that you are not confused but afraid to know what your body is saying. This knowledge may require you to take an action you do not feel ready to take. Reassure yourself with the truth that you can make an informed decision in your right and perfect time, but also realize that denying what you know deep down will not make it go away. Body consciousness will help you get to your truth sooner rather than later.
In order to gain the benefits of your body wisdom, you must create an internal space of stillness and silence on a regular basis. Rushing through your day, constantly being preoccupied with your phone, endlessly ruminating about the past, or projecting into the future are all actions that create noisy static in your internal life.
Your authentic self exists in silence. To help you truly tap into your body, I want you to take five minutes every morning for a grounding meditation. Simply sit for five minutes and repeat the word “so” on the inhalation and “hum” on the exhalation, silently. Since you are not attaching any meaning to these words, your mind will start to quiet as you dial into your body wisdom. Intentional silence can bridge the gap between a wise body and a fearful mind.
After your meditation, look at all the places you’ve been avoiding making changes. Write them down. Then, one by one, day by day, go about systematically handling them, using your body wisdom as your guide.
I am curious about your thoughts. Let me know how the mediation works for you and if it helps you hear your body’s wisdom more clearly. Or, maybe you need a little advice and encouragement. Either way, we are all here to support each other, so I invite you to be open and honest and hold space for one another on this transformation journey.
I hope you have an amazing week, leaning into change, and, as always, take care of you.
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