Taking Time for Some Stress Relief - Terri Cole
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Taking Time for Some Stress Relief

Recently, I’ve gotten a little swept up by stress and haven’t been the diligent pleasure seeker that I typically am. Work has been busy and business opportunities are presenting themselves left and right, which is beyond thrilling, but my intense focus on getting it done has been impacting my usual enjoyment of what I am experiencing and learning. My present moment awareness has been slipping (along with my daily meditation practice), and I have been spending way too much time in my head.

I know that if I can still fall into the All Work and No Play trap, after eight zillion years of therapy and a long journey toward a more conscious existence, than some of you probably do as well. I thought it would be helpful for us to carve out some time to reconnect with our joy and mindfulness by remembering how pleasure and stress impact the quality of our daily lives.

You’ve no doubt heard about cortisol—the stress hormone often associated with weight gain around your mid section. (That’s reason enough for me to get in front of daily stress!) There are other hormones that ignite a stress response, but this is the one we hear most commonly in public conversation. On the feel-good flip side, there are a host of hormones to ignite our pleasure response, most notably oxytocin. Oxytocin is released through physical healing touch and emotional connection.

Let me share some words of wisdom from my pal and the Mac Mama of Pleasure as Power, Mama Gena.

“Pleasure is the fertilizer for your dreams and desires.”

WOW! Doesn’t that just make you want to play hooky and hit the beach or maybe rock a spontaneous make-out session with a special someone?! (Or am I just projecting my pleasure fantasy onto you?)

Pleasure is a discipline, and you have to train your “pleasure muscle” to fire.

Whatever it is that brings you pleasure, it must be done on a regular basis. So how do you build the muscle of enjoyment? When you are feeling stressed, bring yourself back to joy and the present moment through a specific action: go for a walk, take a bath, eat and savor your favorite meal, read People (again, revealing my own guilty pleasure 😉 ), watch Bravo…whatever activity you enjoy and lose yourself in.

Together, let’s challenge ourselves this week to release more oxytocin and less cortisol!


1.    Make a list of seven actions you can incorporate into your life to move pleasure from the bottom to the top of your to-do list. (It can be very simple. For example, there’s a new vegan bakery I’ve been eyeballing.)
2.    Commit to doing one thing from the list daily.
3.    Give yourself ten minutes every morning to set the tone for your day. RPM (Rise Pee Meditate) as davidji suggests.
4.    When you are feeling stressed, ask yourself, “What would make me feel good right now. What do I need to do?” Then do it!
5.    This week, do one thing that would bring you pleasure but that you fear. (A bright red lipstick? Booking your first speaking engagement?)

Need some help getting started? Here’s a few proven oxytocin releasing activities you can try:
–    Hug someone
–    Have an orgasm
–    Be a friend
–    Donate money or time
–    Bond with a child or pet
–    Do something FUN! (Swing on a swing set. Eat an ice cream cone. Go swimming.)

Will you join me in setting the intention to have more fun this week to see what shifts? Please share what you’ll do.

I hope you have an amazing week, letting the oxytocin flow, and, as always, take care of you.

Love Love Love


  • Kyila
    Posted at 11:45h, 20 May Reply

    What a great challenge. Much more fun than giving up coffee! I am going to make a long list of life’s little pleasures and make sure to add some to everyday.

    • Terri Cole
      Posted at 15:44h, 20 May Reply

      Yay Kyila! Can’t wait to hear about the fun things you do to get your Oxy flowing <3 <3

  • Cassandra
    Posted at 11:56h, 20 May Reply

    I’m walking on the beach here in Florida with my Ipod fully of some favorite tunes and let some of them make me break out in a happy dance.

    • Terri Cole
      Posted at 16:18h, 20 May Reply

      Right on Cassandra! Let the Oxy FLOW! <3

  • Yvonne
    Posted at 15:53h, 20 May Reply

    I’m in…sounds fun!!

    • Terri Cole
      Posted at 16:17h, 20 May Reply

      Love your ALL IN attitude my friend! <3

  • Maria Salomao-Schmidt
    Posted at 20:30h, 20 May Reply

    I love the way you write beautiful Terri! I’m up for this challenge. Letting go of what no longer works is one of my very favorite things to do because the upside is magical and wondrous!

    Great big hugs from beautiful Portugal,

    • Terri Cole
      Posted at 20:46h, 20 May Reply

      Thanks mama! I am so psyched you will be joining me on this FEEL GOOD journey <3 <3 <3

      • Maria Salomao-Schmidt
        Posted at 13:35h, 21 May Reply

        You bet your bibby! 😉 Let the games begin!


  • Jessica
    Posted at 22:04h, 20 May Reply

    Would love to join in and making a list of “a few of my favorite things”

    • Terri Cole
      Posted at 22:18h, 20 May Reply

      Well welcome to the Feel Good challenge Jessica! can’t wait to see your feel good list of your favorite things <3

  • Angelika
    Posted at 23:43h, 20 May Reply

    What great inspiration, Terri! What a great way to start my busy week.Thanx a lot. I really Love your weekly inspiration. Have an amazing week. Hugs all the way from Germany. <3

    • Terri Cole
      Posted at 23:56h, 20 May Reply

      You too Anjelika! So happy to have you here with us willkommen! <3

      • Angelika
        Posted at 16:48h, 21 May Reply

        Thanx 🙂

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