A month and a half ago, I made a video about narcissism and I received so many emails from daughters of narcissistic mothers asking me to talk more about how you heal from the pain that comes from this.
Having a narcissistic mother is an incredibly difficult way to have a childhood. And it’s hard, but it is possible for you to survive and thrive.
Today I’m talking about the different kinds of narcissism, the signs that you have a narcissistic parent (though if you do, I bet you already know it), and then I’m giving you tools to help you make boundaries and create happy, healthy, fulfilling relationships.
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“If you have a narcissistic mother, you have endured a lifetime of abuse and trauma.” – Terri Cole
- What are the two types of narcissistic mothers
- Why having a narcissistic parent is so painful
- How narcissistic mothers emotionally blackmail you
- Why you shouldn’t be in competition with your mother
- Why your accomplishments SHOULD NOT be owned by her
- How to know if your mother is lying and manipulating you
- Why narcissistic mothers show no empathy
- Why they don’t want you to have friends
“Why would someone want to deny your reality? Because this is a way they gain control over you.” – Terri Cole
- Why narcissists are super sensitive to criticism
- The importance of understanding the problem
- The dangers of emotional abuse
- How to start healing from the relationship
- The importance of boundaries
- Why you should build trust slowly
- Why you have to be careful not to turn your anger inward
“You have to be able to grieve the loss of the childhood that you wanted.” – Terri Cole
Journal Exercise – Take back your power and honor your experience:
- Step One: Identify how you wanted your relationship with your mother to be.
- Step Two: Journal about the way it actually was and all of the ways you have been hurt or disappointed by it and how you feel about it not turning out the way you wanted.
- Step Three: Journal about the ways that you re-parent yourself and take care of yourself and if you have a daughter write about how you are doing it differently from your mother.
- Step Four: Ask a loving friend to witness what you’ve written and then ritualistically burn up the papers outside, someplace safe. As the paper is turning into smoke and ash feel yourself being liberated and find gratitude for being able to make your own choices and happiness now. YOU my dear, are a fierce survivor.
- To learn more about the two types of narcissistic mothers, the behaviors they display, and how to survive it, download the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers Survival Guide now!
- Listen to my previous episode on gas lighting
- Check out Michelle Piper, an expert on this topic, and her reading list
- Join my online community!
“A major part of you thriving is realizing that your narcissistic mother will most likely never change.” – Terri Cole