Is Someone Gaslighting You?
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90 Is Someone Gaslighting You?

Is Someone Gaslighting You? on Hello Freedom with Terri ColeI got a request to do an episode about gaslighting, and I wanted to do it because it’s a term I’ve been hearing a lot lately. Gaslighting is an intense form of emotional abuse, and it can make victims feel crazy! So today on the show I’m explaining what gaslighting is and telling you the signs that someone is gaslighting you.

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“Gaslighting does not require deliberate plotting, it only requires a belief that it is acceptable to overwrite another person’s reality.” – Terri Cole

Show Notes:

  • Where the term came from
  • What is gaslighting?
  • The characteristics of someone who gaslights
  • The difference between manipulation and gaslighting
  • What is glamor gaslighting
  • How gaslighters always transform into the victim
  • Why abusers may use multiple abusive behaviors
  • What are the signs that you’re being gaslighted
  • How to understand your blueprint of abuse

“You isolate yourself – they’re doing it by making you crazy but you’re also doing it because you don’t want to reveal the shame.” – Terri Cole

Signs That You’re Being Gaslighted:

    1. You second guess yourself
    2. You wonder if you’re too sensitive or jealous
    3. You feel confused often
    4. You start lying or covering up when there’s no need to do so
    5. You’re constantly on alert
    6. You try to predict what’s going to happen
    7. You cover up and hide from family and friends
    8. You apologize even when it’s not your fault
    9. You defend yourself against ridiculous accusations
    10. You wonder if you are going crazy

“The last symptom is that you sometimes wonder if you are going crazy, because that’s kind of the whole point of this abusive tactic.” – Terri Cole

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“It really does erode your confidence and your ability to believe in your own interpretation of events.” –  Terri Cole

Terri Cole
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    Posted at 16:35h, 17 April Reply

    […] Listen to my previous episode on gas lighting […]

  • L Leo
    Posted at 18:34h, 03 March Reply

    Wow, Terry. Thank you for this topic, I wasn’t aware this existed, but it’s amazing how the Universe sends us exactly what we need if only we pay attention!
    I’ve just disentangled myself from a situation in which a man, whom I’d just began dating was attempting to manipulate and gaslight me after I began enforcing my boundaries. Both of us are adult children of alcoholics and I recognized the behavior because I had seen my father do it to my mother and my brother’s wife do it to him, as he is also an alcoholic and this is how she keeps him dependent on her. Frightening stuff. Thankfully, I was able to see it and move away from his predatory influences.

    • Terri Cole
      Posted at 22:29h, 05 March Reply

      Good for you for doing your own mental health work, recognizing the warning signs and moving on!! Thanks for sharing here with us.

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