It’s what we all want and how we are meant to live.
Yet so often, material success and the things we think will create the freedom we crave, don’t.
So let’s focus our energy on what will.
Here you will learn strategies and tools to create real Freedom by identifying and transforming the fear based, limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck.
Fear is the opposite of Freedom (and a tricky bastard).
After earning- what I now refer to as- my PhD in Fear, I turned my pain into purpose and taught thousands of clients and students to transform their own fear into Freedom.
Now it’s your turn.
So take a deep breath, say Hello, Freedom and buckle up!
Love Love Love
“Terri Cole is a powerful force of nature. She will teach you how to smash your blocks and unleash your inner fire. If you want to be fearless and free, listen to Terri. Listen very carefully.”
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“Some of us are natural IDENTIFIERS, like Terri Cole. Cole’s a psychotherapist-coach, and, as my mother would say, Terri can “shoot bullshit out of the air.” Lucid, like wow. She can look at a relationship dynamic, or a business structure, or a repeating pattern and bam, fwam, shazam, she can tell you what’s really going on in one sentence, in one minute. And she does it freely, anytime of the day, with anyone who’s ready for it.”
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The opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction is human connection.” – Johann Hari Author, Chasing the Scream
It finally happened in 2008.
For a long time after it was over, I referred to it as, those two long weeks in ’08. And while I was in the middle of it I referred to what I was doing as, a social experiment.
It was more significant than two weeks might imply and it had nothing at all to do with any social experiment.
Plain and simple.
I had long ago accepted my status as an alcoholic. In fact, I stopped drinking for good, during the last three months of my senior year of college. As the years went by though, I often wondered if I was REALLY an alcoholic. Maybe it would be different now, maybe I could drink like a normal person after twenty-two years without a drop.
I got my answer during those two weeks in 2008, which was a resounding HELL NO! I could not drink moderately and I knew that if I did not stop as abruptly as I started, I would lose everything.
I waited eight years to share this experience publically because the mental obsession that the relapse triggered was so terrifying. Every time I thought about telling this tale in hopes that it might help someone else in pain, it felt too soon, until now.
Speaking of helping, if you think you or someone you love may have a problem with alcohol below are 20 questions that Alcoholics Anonymous suggests will help to gain clarity.
- Do you lose time from work due to drinking?
- Is drinking making your home life unhappy?
- Do you drink because you are shy with other people?
- Is your drinking affecting your reputation?
- Have you ever felt guilt or remorse after drinking?
- Have you ever gotten into financial difficulties as a result of the drinking?
- Do you turn into lower companions and an inferior environment when drinking?
- Does your drinking make you careless of your family’s welfare?
- Has your ambition decreased since drinking?
- Do you crave or a definite time?
- Do you want a drink at the next morning?
- Does drinking cost to have difficulty sleeping?
- Has your efficiency decreased since drinking?
- Is drinking and jeopardizing your job or business?
- Do you drink to escape from worries or trouble?
- Do you drink alone?
- Have you ever had a complete loss of memory as a result of drinking?
- Has your physician ever treated you for drinking?
- Do you drink to build up your self-confidence?
- Have you ever been to a hospital or institution because of drinking?
According to AA, if you answer affirmatively to even one question, you may have a problem with alcohol. According to me:
I chose to interview a new pal, Andrea Owen as a part of this week’s podcast on addiction because she has her own recovery story that inspired me to share mine. We met last summer when we were both facilitators at Soul Camp East, and immediately connected. Andrea is an author and certified life coach. She helps women get what they want by letting go of perfectionism, control, and isolation, and instead teaches them to choose courage. She has also written a book that I love, 52 Ways to Live a Kickass Life.
To hear Andrea’s inspiring journey through addiction in addition to the full account of my 2008 relapse saga, tune into today’s episode of Hello Freedom.
If you know you have a problem with any addiction, I pray that this podcast will inspire you to get help. You are not alone.
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- How alcohol replaced her other addictions
- The progression of her alcoholism
- Why and when she quit drinking
- How she relapsed
- What she misses about drinking
- Her advice for other moms and women who are struggling
- Why sobriety and recovery is very scary
- The importance of surrounding yourself with good people
- The power of emotions
- Rebekah Borucki shared Andrea’s post on FB which inspired me to tell the 2008 tale!
- Check out my friend Patty Powers
- Check out Andrea’s book, 52 Ways to Live a Kickass Life
- Connect with Andrea:
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What kind of a communicator are you?
Can you say what’s on your mind or do you stuff it down if you think someone won’t like it?
There are many reasons we avoid sharing our authentic truth, even at times, with ourselves. Society conditions women to value ‘niceness’ above almost all other virtues. This can be in direct conflict with speaking the truth (which can always be delivered with kindness but isn’t always ‘nice’). Avoiding or denying the truth is not free. We pay with our level of satisfaction, the depth of intimacy in our relationships and often with our health as well.
That is why I am so excited to share some deep insights about how to up your communication game from my pal Dr. Neha Sangwan. Neha is an internal medicine doctor and a communication expert. I met her at a Hay House event a few years ago and reconnected with her this past summer at Soul Camp West, when we were bunkmates and both facilitating workshops. I was so inspired and intrigued by the talk she gave, that I read her phenomenal book, TalkRx: Five Steps to Honest Conversations that Create Connection, Health, and Happiness, over one weekend.
Dr.Sangwan writes about what happens in our lives (and bodies) when we don’t effectively communicate by numbing our emotions, instead of expressing them in relationships and careers.
As a therapist for the past, almost twenty years, I see effective communication as one of the top issues my clients present to me. Awareness and desire to change unhealthy communication styles is the first step to transformation. One of the most common ways to sabotage effective communication is to send mixed messages. According to Dr. Sangwan there are three primary reasons mixed messages occurs:
- Need for Approval
If you need approval for validation you may feel compelled to say,’Yes’ when you want to say,’No.’ But your body language and the stress hormones being released into your bloodstream tell a conflicting story.
- Unmet Expectations
Similarly if you have plans and your pal asks if you are OK with postponing them because she has a chance to do something else. If you say you are ‘fine’ with it but feel disappointed inside, you’re giving a mixed message (and teaching your friend that it’s OK to ditch you if something better comes along!).
3. Feeling Guilty
When we acquiesce to other people’s desires because we feel guilty for drawing a boundary or truthfully sharing our preference, we end up giving a mixed message.
All of these behaviors block you from being truly known. To help get you moving in the direction of authentic communication Dr. Sangwan has gifted us her TalkRx journal!
I hope that you enjoy my interview with Neha and that the resources and insights she shares inspire you to up your communication game because you deserve to be heard!
“We know in science that 98%, or 95% at least, of all illness is caused or exacerbated by stress.” – Neha Sangwan
- Why she moved from engineering to medicine
- How she started reexamining her patients
- The importance of connecting the dots between physical ailments and the rest of your life
- Why she wanted to help people transform their lives upon leaving the hospital
- What symptoms you can look for in your physical life
“When your mouth says yes and your heart says no, you get sick.” – Neha Sangwan
- Why people are more attuned to their external senses than their internal signals
- How people are good at numbing physical sensation
- Why mindfulness is so important
- What inspired her new book, TalkRx
- Why she practices take twos
Neha’s Five Awareness Questions:
- Why this?
- Why now?
- What might you have missed?
- What else needs to be healed?
- If you spoke from the heart, what would you say?
“I believe that your physiology is the first one to tell you, before you even know and before anybody outside you knows, it’s the first one to signal you.” – Neha Sangwan
“I want medicine and our health to be about all of us, all of our health.” – Neha Sangwan
*image courtesy of Ricky Willis
“I was working all of the time with no time to focus on my personal life and finding love.”
“I remember seeing all of the promotions for B-School and seeing all of the success stories wondering if the B-School Magic would work for me and my business too.”
“I felt limited by my geographic location and I wanted to expand my reach but wasn’t sure how to do it.”
“I was hesitant but had a gut feeling it was the right move.”
These are just a few of the things my now B-School alumni pals, Lara and Christine, felt before they decided to take the leap. Just like you, they felt scared, frustrated, overworked and alone. They wanted to make a change but didn’t know how. They knew they couldn’t keep doing what they were doing if they wanted to connect with more clients, create real freedom and more financial abundance.
As you’ll hear in these two short videos below, they reveal that B-School was their key to unlocking the door to success, financial abundance and in Lara’s case, romantic love! They also developed new friendships, business partnerships and inspired ideas that helped them each more than triple their income!
Working for yourself and becoming your own boss is exciting and something so many of you dream about, but it can also be intimidating. When it’s you calling the shots and making all the decisions, you become solely responsible for the success of your business.
Part of the reason B-School is so amazing is that it takes the guesswork out of how to properly establish and run an online business. It provides a step-by-step process that you can visit again and again (when you pay for B-School once, you have access to it for life) to help you and your business continue to evolve.
So, yes, taking the leap, investing in yourself and deciding that you’re actually going to commit to your dreams is scary. But I took the leap, along with Lara and Christine and thousands of others all over the world. CLICK HERE to hear those stories.
Watch Lara and Christine’s phenomenal B-School stories!
I’ve made, in terms of my programs, over $120,000 just launching one program, twice!
The size of my email list has grown to 5 times what it was when i started!
I created more time and space in my personal life and in turn met and married the love of my life!
Immediately, I felt stronger and more confident as a business owner.
As a result, I became friends with a tribe of power house entrepreneurs and now dear friends. And I collaborated with top people in the wellness fields.
I was featured on media outlets on TV and online. I have successfully run my goddess retreat in Puerto Rico and it just keeps growing every year.
Specifically, I was able to triple my revenue!
Signing up for B-School is a life changing step that I hope you take but, you also have to do the work. And because fear is bound to pop up at some point throughout the program to try and stop you from moving forward (believe me this happens to everyone), I want to be there with you when it does.
When you sign up for B-School using THIS LINK you’ll not only get some incredible bonuses but you’ll also get me as a partner and a mentor to help you navigate the inevitable ups and downs throughout the next eight weeks. B-School is more than just a financial investment and time commitment, it’s so much bigger than that. B-School is about you putting faith in yourself and your dreams and saying YES to living your purpose and sharing your gifts with the world.
Marie is the best at what she does and her B-School program is the only business program I endorse. I do this because it works. It’s helped me transform not only my psychotherapy and coaching practice but also my life. I want that for you too.
So ask yourself, if you don’t take the leap and register, what will be different in six months or a year from now. How will things be better? B-School is the place to learn the skills, gain the community and be held accountable to making your dreams come true. This program has helped its students earn up to six and seven figures just after their first round of taking the program.
Consider how much your life could change if you were making double what you make now with more time to spend doing the things you love?! B-School isn’t a magic pill, it is a guide that clears away the confusion around building a successful online business.
Only you truly know if B-School is right for you. So, I want to encourage you to take some time and really think about the questions above. If you feel in your gut that this is your time, then trust yourself and register now.
Still on the fence? If you want to register but just aren’t clear if B-School is right for you then email me at firstname.lastname@example.org to set up a twenty-minute laser coaching session with me, for free, to go over your situation and decide if B-School is right for you!
Remember, that B-School registration closes next week on Wednesday, March 2nd and that you won’t be able to sign up again until next year.
So if not now when?
And if not who you?
You are in charge of your life, living your purpose and following your dreams. Join me in starting now and let me and team TC successfully guide you through B-School and onto the business and life you love!
I hope we can do this together.
Love Love Love
*image courtesy of StOrmz