The Golden Rule: Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you.
We all know it, but do we really, truly practice it? Are you kind or cruel? No one enjoys being treated in a cruel manner, so why is it challenging at times to not inflict that feeling on others?
Kindness is a choice. Before you speak, before you say anything to anyone, ask yourself, “Is this kind, will it help, and is it true?” Use your words wisely, as a way to add value.
We recently discussed how unsolicited advice and chronic criticism robs the other person of their dignity. I had a friend who would do this all the time, and it would make me so angry. She would say things like, “I liked your hair better the other way” or “Those pants don’t flatter you.” I would think to myself, and then started saying it to her face, “I don’t recall asking you for your opinion, please don’t assume I want it.” Since I wasn’t asking her how I looked in my pants or which hairstyle flattered my face more, I felt assaulted when she just spit it out, like toxic word vomit. The assumption that everyone is interested in your “truth” is a wrong one.
Also, be selective about whose opinion you value and seek those people out when you want input. What everyone else thinks about you, your hair, or your pants is none of your business.
I want to challenge you to dial into your language and why you are less than kind on occasion. Is it to be funny? Maybe it makes you feel better about yourself to put someone else down? Or are you plagued by the misconception that if you have an opinion about something, anything, it is your duty to share? (Now you know that it’s not )
Can you take the next seven days and be kind in your words, thoughts, and deeds. Ok, thoughts might be the last to come, but can you be kind in your words and deeds? This requires you to be aware in the present moment—to take a moment to pause before you hit the play button and say whatever is on your mind. What do you notice changes in yourself and in your relationships, even to strangers, when you are nothing but thoughtful? Let us know!
I hope you have an amazingly kind week to others and to yourself and, as always, take care of you.
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