How do you feel about forgiveness? Throughout the years as I talk about forgiveness to my clients, group coaching, and lectures, I find a lot of misconception around this idea.
When I encourage people to forgive a grievance, many of them feel I must not really understand the situation. They think my advice should be to never talk to the person again, NOT to forgive them. Let’s set the record straight about this all-too-common reaction.
The truth is Forgiveness Frees the Heart…. YOUR heart
Many times we feel a grudge as a heavy feeling in our heart. That feeling is constriction. All feelings are forms of energy, which is why we get a physical sensation from them. Since like energy attracts like, the constriction from not forgiving blocks the flow of your abundance.
When we release that negative bind to another person, that heaviness lifts allowing expansion (aka space) for you to love and trust again.
Forgiving is all about you. Deciding whether to hold anger or release it occurs in your mind. You decide how you want to feel. No one else does it for you.
So what is forgiveness? Forgiveness is not condoning the actions of the other party, rolling over, and giving up. It is not about losing anything or letting someone else dominate you. Forgiveness is about releasing you from the bitterness prison that negatively affects other areas of your life, like your ability to love and trust others based on a past scenario.
To help you move past the constriction and into the expansion of the universe, I have a forgiveness exercise for you. Make a list of all the people in your life you are holding a grudge against, close your eyes, and visualize a negative cord of energy (active resentment) attaching you to that person. Next take a deep breath and see yourself with a giant pair of scissors cutting that cord. Both you and the other party float away from each other, releasing the negative energetic bind. Continue to do this until you feel you have released the experience. If you are still struggling, write an unedited letter to the offender expressing all of your feelings. Read the letter to a trusted friend or simply aloud and then burn it someplace safe. Visualize the energetic cord being cut while you are burning the letter and silently repeat, I am FREE. Repeat the releasing process as needed and watch what shifts in your life.
Get honest about grievances and the energy it is stealing from your beautiful one-of-a-kind life.
Please drop a comment and post to Twitter and Facebook. I want to start a dialogue about forgiveness because it is that important of a topic.
I hope you have a heart-opening week.
Love Love Love
PS: There is a guided Forgiveness to Freedom meditation on my Meditation Transformation CD if you need a little help getting started ❤
PPS: The title cards to my videos this month were all drawn by my talented son, Alex Juhasz. Check him out: http://www.alexjuhasz.com/. You will be seeing these designs again very soon in my L*O*V*E deck of cards… stay tuned for more details and product launch date!