It’s what we all want and how we are meant to live.
Yet so often, material success and the things we think will create the freedom we crave, don’t.
So let’s focus our energy on what will.
Here you will learn strategies and tools to create real Freedom by identifying and transforming the fear based, limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck.
Fear is the opposite of Freedom (and a tricky bastard).
After earning- what I now refer to as- my PhD in Fear, I turned my pain into purpose and taught thousands of clients and students to transform their own fear into Freedom.
Now it’s your turn.
So take a deep breath, say Hello, Freedom and buckle up!
Love Love Love
“Terri Cole is a powerful force of nature. She will teach you how to smash your blocks and unleash your inner fire. If you want to be fearless and free, listen to Terri. Listen very carefully.”
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“Some of us are natural IDENTIFIERS, like Terri Cole. Cole’s a psychotherapist-coach, and, as my mother would say, Terri can “shoot bullshit out of the air.” Lucid, like wow. She can look at a relationship dynamic, or a business structure, or a repeating pattern and bam, fwam, shazam, she can tell you what’s really going on in one sentence, in one minute. And she does it freely, anytime of the day, with anyone who’s ready for it.”
Author, Speaker, Publisher, Fire Starter, Creator of Desire Map
Do you like where you are in this exact moment in the change process?
Whether you answered yes or no, let me remind you: it’s about to change. In fact, it is changing this very instant!
All of your life is a continuous state of transformation. From one second to the next your physical body is changing as well as the structure of your brain from an array of factors including meditation, learning new skills and integrating new information.
For some of you the idea of things changing may bring a sense of relief, while for others it can inspire fear. Perhaps you find yourself using denial to resist certain changes altogether. Even though the out of sight out of mind theory doesn’t work, it can still be tempting.
Sometimes change is expected (getting another year older, buying a new home, graduating from college) while other times it may come as a surprise (a proposal, a pregnancy, a job offer or an unexpected death). Whether you regard it as good or bad, change can be challenging. A routine provides some with a sense of comfort and stability. A sense of mastery and security can come from life being somewhat predictable. No matter what we do to brace against it or hold onto the illusion that we can control it, change is inevitable. Even good change can feel bad and produce anxiety, simply because we are forced from the known into the unknown.
When you become too attached to the familiar, you begin to resist the powerful flow of life. The change process is as natural as gravity. While you cannot see it, you will always experience its effects. You would never go through life trying to fight the effects of gravity, right? Try to think of change the same way.
Resisting the inevitable is futile but also anxiety provoking. Although it is true that things changing is guaranteed, how they change has everything to do with you. If you live under the illusion that life is happening to you, then it makes sense that change feels threatening. Conversely, if you tap into the power you have to influence the way things change by intending what you want to happen, you will be much more empowered as you travel through the many phases of your life.
The goal is to move from denial to acceptance to true celebration of change. Since it is going to happen anyway, do your best to influence how things change in your life and as the Serenity prayer states, “Accept the things I can not change.” I believe we honor what has gone before by being present to what is happening now. Your presence at any phase of life is the most important element to how you experience change and everything else.
Take some time today to think about where you may be resisting changes, as well as where you are welcoming them. Share in the comments below what is changing in your life right now. It could be as small as moving desks in your office, or as big as your first born graduating from college. No matter what it is, remind yourself that you can find valuable gifts in each and every change if you are willing to look for them.
Have a beautiful week flowing with life and, as always, take care of you.
Love Love Love
*image courtesy of Andrea Nlgels
The word “renewal” means to begin again or to replace what is worn out or broken. A time of renewal can be a chance to start fresh, reconnect to what brings you happiness or to release what is no longer working. I see Spring as an opportunity to renew motivation and inspiration in areas that may have become stagnant or as a time to re-access situations, relationships or habits that are no longer serving your highest good.
Several weeks ago I wrote about the importance of conducting a Psychological Spring Clean. I suggested making a list of all situations and relationships that have become problematic or no longer joyful. Hopefully, this process gave you a better understanding of what in your life needs your attention.
For many people it simply doesn’t occur to them to question the status quo. Honestly assessing your satisfaction level in all areas of your life may require you to take action in new and different ways that may be out of your comfort zone. This is when your fear mind or Mafia Mind, as I like to call it, will come up with very convincing arguments not to ‘rock the boat.’
For this reason, when my clients are in the process of assessing their life seeking renewal, I guide them to develop a daily practice that will fuel their progress. This practice has the power to create space between your thoughts which gives you more control over what happens in your mind. Your beliefs can propel you towards an amazing life, or hold you back entirely. Meditation helps you recognize that you have a choice in how you think. If you want to change or renew your relationships, health, finances or career, meditation can be the foundation for making those changes happen.
Think of meditation as a shower for your mind. It can clean up your thoughts and leave you feeling refreshed and renewed. For the last fifteen years, I have started almost every morning with a meditation. My practice has helped me shift my thoughts on fear and experience freedom in ways I never knew possible.
Whether you are struggling to set boundaries with your boss, going through a health scare or are simply having a tough time, meditation can help renew your perspective and energy by clearing your mind on a daily basis. It also helps you stay grounded in this present moment, which minimizes concerns about the future and helps you let go of the past. By focusing on the here and now, you begin to experience the power of your presence in the present. Your presence energizes any part of your life you decide to focus it on.
Meditation = Daily Renewal
I hope you enjoyed the guided meditation above. To take the next step towards renewal, leave a comment below about what you’d like needs attention or an infusion of energy. I always love to hear from you.
Each and every moment possesses the possibility of a clean slate, starting right now.
Here’s to a weekend filled with the newness of Spring and as always, take care of you.
Love Love Love
*image courtesy of Mitchell Joyce
We all have dreams. Whether yours are to travel the world, build a successful business, have a baby or all three, you know what it feels like to want a specific thing to happen, usually within a specific time frame. You may work hard and use all of the manifesting tools you know to reach your goal. Most of us invest financially and emotionally to create our dream. If you’re really honest with yourself, have you become so busy plotting and planning the future, that you’ve forgotten to enjoy the present?
I see this phenomenon in my practice often. Clients believing they’ll be happy when and ONLY when certain dreams are fulfilled. It might be when they get promoted, own a home, get married, have a baby, lose ten pounds, have their own business or blog or…you get the point. The problem with this future based strategy is that it is not guaranteed to us. The only moment we know for sure that we will experience is the one we are experiencing right now.
That is not to imply that planning for the future is frivolous or wrong. I am simply saying that when you dream so intently that you forget to focus on what is right in front of you, you are robbing yourself of experiencing your actual life. If you can’t truly appreciate what you have what makes you think you will appreciate more of anything? If your mind and heart are not engaged in the present moment, you miss it. And once it’s gone, it’s gone for good.
Think about that for a minute.
What I know to be true is that real joy can only found in the here and now. And while dreams and goals motivate you to move forward in life, gratitude and present moment consciousness are the keys to happiness. When you can look around and appreciate all that you have while still nourishing your dreams, you’ll be fulfilled in a deep and meaningful way.
Hopefully, as you evolve and change so do your dreams. Many of the things I thought I had to happen, for me to be happy, didn’t. And you know what? I am happy. If you can be mindful to revise, revisit and sometimes retire dreams that no longer make sense in your life, you can alleviate the pressure or a sense of failure that dreams unfulfilled can inspire.
“Live each present moment completely and the future will take care of itself. Fully enjoy the wonder and beauty of each instant” – Paramahansa Yogananda
Please allow some time this week to take an honest inventory of your dreams. Are you so future focused that you’re missing your precious daily life? What dreams you are willing to revise or release all together? Drop a comment here or connect with me on my FaceBook page. I love hearing from you.
Have a great week and as always, take care of you.
Love Love Love
*image courtesy of Nicole Pierce