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Freedom.

It’s what we all want and how we are meant to live.

Yet so often, material success and the things we think will create the freedom we crave, don’t.

So let’s focus our energy on what will.

Here you will learn strategies and tools to create real Freedom by identifying and transforming the fear based, limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck.

Fear is the opposite of Freedom (and a tricky bastard).

After earning- what I now refer to as- my PhD in Fear, I turned my pain into purpose and taught thousands of clients and students to transform their own fear into Freedom.

Now it’s your turn.
So take a deep breath, say Hello, Freedom and buckle up!
Love Love Love

Terri

 

 

Terri-Kris“Terri Cole is a powerful force of nature. She will teach you how to smash your blocks and unleash your inner fire. If you want to be fearless and free, listen to Terri. Listen very carefully.”

— Kris Carr
Bestselling Author, Activist, Cancer Thriver

Terri-Danielle“Some of us are natural IDENTIFIERS, like Terri Cole. Cole’s a psychotherapist-coach, and, as my mother would say, Terri can “shoot bullshit out of the air.” Lucid, like wow. She can look at a relationship dynamic, or a business structure, or a repeating pattern and bam, fwam, shazam, she can tell you what’s really going on in one sentence, in one minute. And she does it freely, anytime of the day, with anyone who’s ready for it.”

— Danielle LaPorte
Author, Speaker, Publisher, Fire Starter, Creator of Desire Map

 

Are You Good with Goodbyes?

Are You Good with Goodbyes?

Being Present for Endings Prepares You 4 New Beginnings @Terri_Cole {CLICK TO TWEET}

We all know that nothing in life is permanent and yet that knowing does not seem to make saying goodbye any easier for most people. Whether it is a relationship, a job, or transitioning from this life to the next, this journey is a series of endings that eventually lead to beginnings. How well you negotiate and honor things endings can impact how successfully you move onto the next phase.

Life transitions are predictable changes like marriage, children, retirement etc. With each change the familiar structures that protect you and create comfort are deconstructed and you must go forward into the unknown and create a new path. These upheavals can create anxiety and test the limits of your ability to adapt. However, each life transition is also an opportunity to dive deep and learn about your inner resources and to ask yourself what you really want out of life.

Emotional Constipation can Occur if You Deny a Proper Goodbye @Terri_Cole {CLICK TO TWEET}

Endings are the perfect time for self-reflection that can then lead to self-renewal, gratitude for your experiences and a solid start to a new chapter of your life.

Every ENDING deserves an CONSCIOUS Goodbye @Terri_Cole {CLICK TO TWEET}

By taking time to honor situations and relationships that come to an end you allow yourself to experience the full spectrum of your emotions and learn what you were meant to learn. You gain clarity about what you liked and what you didn’t and perhaps what you would do differently next time. Your past processed experiences will inform the person you are becoming if you are willing to do the work.

What part of your life are you saying goodbye to? Are you transitioning from one situation to another? No matter if you are happy about this goodbye, or sad, I want to hear from you. In the comments below please share how you handle goodbyes and how I can support you.

Goodbye for now and I hope to connect with you on my FaceBook page during this week.

As always, take care of you.

Love Love Love

Terri

 

 

* image courtesy of Toni Blay

Your Body is Speaking – Are you Listening?

Your Body is Speaking – Are you Listening?

No one knows what is right for you better than YOU @Terri_Cole  {CLICK TO TWEET}

When you have a decision to make, how often do you seek the opinion and advice of others before really sitting with your own feelings about the situation?

Are you often confused about what to do next to achieve your goals?

If you are nodding your head yes, then you are not alone. When I was younger, I used to look others to tell me what was right for me until I was recovering from a cancer diagnosis and felt something not right. The doctors and the test results claimed I was cured. My inner knowing said they were wrong. My husband Vic was supportive of me finding a surgeon to remove the other half of my thyroid (even though most other people did not get it but honestly I did not care)  and when I did, there was a different, more aggressive cancer discovered. My gut instinct was right and I am obviously very grateful I trusted my feelings enough to go against the grain.

It seems that between google and wikipedia, answers appear in seconds. Our fast paced, instant gratification, virtual world tends to encourage us to live from the neck up, disconnected from our innate physical wisdom. When you have a decision to make, the fastest way to gain clarity about your next right action is to tap into your body’s wisdom.

You can’t GOOGLE your next right action. Get Silent Go Within & Listen @Terri_Cole {CLICK TO TWEET}

I created this Body Wisdom meditation to help you find your way within, where your answers reside. Your job is to create a little stillness and silence daily to access your inner knowing. You never know when it might just save your life.

The body never lies. ~Martha Graham via @Terri_Cole {CLICK TO TWEET}

All I need is within me now @intenSati via @Terri_Cole {CLICK TO TWEET} 

This week, I challenge each and every one of you to tap into your body’s wisdom as often as possible. For some of you this will be through dance or yoga, or some other kind of movement, for others perhaps you will connect through breathing. Hopefully, many of you will use this meditation to become more attuned with the messages your body has for you. In the comments below I would love to hear stories about you or someone you know who, through their body, was able to uncover life changing wisdom.

Take time this week go within, listen to your heart and as always take care of you.

Love Love Love

 


Terri

 

 

*image courtesy of Steven Shorrock

Become a Master of Love

Become a Master of Love

I don’t know if kindness is the only thing that matters, but I know it is VERY important @Terri_Cole {CLICK TO TWEET}

Romantic relationships have the capacity to bring out the best in you, and the worst in you. According to relationship expert Harville Hendrix, we unconsciously choose romantic partners who mirror our unresolved childhood wounds (hopefully so they can be resolved, but that does not always happen.). For an array of reasons the romantic relationship can be an emotionally loaded connection where behavior can swing from extreme kindness to extreme cruelty.

It’s interesting, when you think about how good it feels to be kind, how many people find themselves stuck in a pattern of behaving in an unkind manner towards their partner. Snapping, harsh words, an aggressive tone and thoughtless action all chip away at the foundation that a relationship is built on. For many couples the issue is not intentional cruelty but a lack of intentional kindness.

“Be a little kinder than you have to.” ― E. Lockhart via @Terri_Cole  {CLICK TO TWEET}

Click to read the Masters of Love Study on Kindness

Being kind is not always easy. Your partner will undoubtedly annoy and frustrate you. You will not always agree and there will always be life challenges that can strain your relationship. Though the more you practice kindness in your day to day life with your partner, the better equipped you both will be for the times when being kind feels like the most difficult thing to do.

“Be kind anyway.” – Mother Teresa via @Terri_Cole {CLICK TO TWEET}

Kindness to be like a muscle and the more you use it, the stronger it gets. Look at practicing kindness as an exercise that will enhance your life and wellbeing. Take every opportunity to extend kindness to your partner. A simple love note, flowers, a foot rub, deep listening or a hug can go a long way.

“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.” ― Aesop via @Terri_Cole

Focusing on what is right instead of what is wrong about your partner is also an act of kindness. I am not saying to deny major issues, simply that what you focus on grows. So why not focus on the qualities that drew you together in the first place. Your focus creates your perception. You get to choose what lense you view your partner though.

Relationships take work. It’s amazing how often people forget this. Your level of self awareness directly impacts how well your relationship works. Your partner, just like you, is an imperfect human. They will make mistakes, say and do stupid things and probably hurt your feelings from time to time. This is life. While getting together in a relationship is often easy, keeping it healthy takes effort. And while there is no secret recipe to staying in love, science has proven that kindness plays a major in couples staying together and actually being happy together.

I want to urge you to bring more kindness into your relationship starting today! So below in the comments list 3 ways that you commit to extending kindness to your partner over the next 7 days. In addition to that, start shifting your focus now by listing 3 things that you appreciate and love about your partner. Transformation in relationships is possible. It takes time, effort and personal responsibility, but it is possible! Let kindness be your guide.

This week be kind to your partner and as always, take care of you.

Love Love Love

 

Terri

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