It’s what we all want and how we are meant to live.
Yet so often, material success and the things we think will create the freedom we crave, don’t.
So let’s focus our energy on what will.
Here you will learn strategies and tools to create real Freedom by identifying and transforming the fear based, limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck.
Fear is the opposite of Freedom (and a tricky bastard).
After earning- what I now refer to as- my PhD in Fear, I turned my pain into purpose and taught thousands of clients and students to transform their own fear into Freedom.
Now it’s your turn.
So take a deep breath, say Hello, Freedom and buckle up!
Love Love Love
“Terri Cole is a powerful force of nature. She will teach you how to smash your blocks and unleash your inner fire. If you want to be fearless and free, listen to Terri. Listen very carefully.”
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Summer is filled with simple pleasures that create pure joy for me. Biting into a perfectly ripe tomato, feeling the cool grass underneath my bare feet, meditating outside with a light evening breeze gently caressing my skin are all experiences that make me happy and keep me grounded in the present moment. These are a few of my favorite things about summer. What are yours?
I hope that the past two months have been filled with sunshine, rest, relaxation and expansion for you. I hope that in the midst of your busy life you have taken the time to be present for this season of abundance. To help you rock some present moment summertime consciousness, I have created a 3 minute summer meditation just for you.
Get comfortable. Press play. Close your eyes. Take a deep breath in…
As we continue to move through the summer days I want to invite you to be mindful of the gifts of this season. Notice all that you love about this time of year, where ever you live. Many of these gifts only come around once a year so don’t miss them!
Taking time to get present and experience gratitude for all you have is really a gift to yourself. Summer, with all it’s colors, sensations, beauty and bounty is the perfect time to start this practice and create a habit of it. When you become more connected to the miracles that are occurring all around you, you become a part of them. Then you are more naturally aligned with the flow of life. Let yourself be guided by the divine intelligence of nature and the seasons.
After you’ve meditated in the comments below please share with me some of your favorite things about summer. Remember: No matter what the season, gratitude is an energetic vibration that becomes a magnet for like energy! I always love reading your posts, especially when they connect me to what you are experiencing. I’ll see you in the comments and this week make sure to, as always, take care of you.
Love Love Love
*image courtesy of Claudio.Ar
Have you ever noticed that the person you love the most can also enrage you the most?
Love and hate are two of the most intense emotional states humans can experience. Although they seem diametrically opposed, in reality they have much in common. Love and hate can be seemingly irrational and can lead to heroic and some pretty diabolical deeds. Both can also be all consuming. You probably know (or are related to) a couple who hate each other with such a passion that the divorce proceedings drag on for years. They are pouring as much energy into the now defunct relationship as they did when still coupled which keeps them fiercely connected to each other.
The thin line between these two emotions is not just observable in a social context. According to a recent scientific study, love and hate are intimately linked within the human brain. While studying the physical nature of hate, the scientists discovered that some of the nervous circuits in the brain responsible for hate are the same as those that are used while experiencing the feeling of romantic love. This study creates a new understanding of the quick flip from love to hate after a heartbreak, for many people.
So why is it important to handle your emotions so you don’t waste the rest of your life re-telling the atrocious story of so and so? Because when you can’t stop hating on your Ex, you are not emotionally separated from them. Unconsciously, hating maintains the connection, sometimes referred to as a negative energetic cord. Properly honoring and processing the experience may feel too threatening, as if doing so means it is really over. But not doing it keeps you stuck in love purgatory; you can’t have them and you are unavailable to explore possibilities with other suitors.
When a relationship ends there is an emotional healing process that needs to take place. Getting through and then over a breakup is painful and requires grieving what it actually was AND what you hoped it would be. Even if you know you are better off, you will feel the absence of the other. For many people, the prospect of facing the void left by a partner is too frightening so they unconsciously use hate as a way to stay connected and not move on.
Being alone can be a scary prospect, especially if it is a long term relationship that is ending. But being in a bad, abusive or simply not right for you relationship until the end of time because you are afraid to be alone, is scarier still. (According to moi.)
“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”
In my experience in my own life, and with clients, time and love heals all wounds. You decide what your take away is from the relationship. There are gems of self illumination in every experience but if you are intent on keeping the blame game going by harbouring hate for your ex, you will never learn what you were meant to learn from the experience. You can’t be a victim and self determined at the same time. Self determination will liberate you.
If you are going through or have gone through a breakup that still weighs heavy on your heart I encourage you do so some exploration. Focus on the bad AND the good. What went right; what went wrong? Where can YOU do better next time. Get curious about how your ‘hate’ may be serving you. Most importantly identify and honor your feelings.
Drop a comment or question below, have a great week and remember to take care of you.
Love Love Love
*image courtesy of Patrícia Lobo
I think everyone has a slightly different definition of karma. There are phrases like, “Karma is a bitch,” which to me implies wishing bad things on “bad” people because you believe they deserve it. Deepak Chopra teaches The Law of Karma or Cause and Effect which states; Every action generates a force of energy that returns to us in like kind . . . what we sow is what we reap. And when we choose actions that bring happiness and success to others, the fruit of our karma is happiness and success.
This is a definition that makes sense to me personally.
Many years ago Vic and I were betrayed by a close friend in a business deal. It was not a situation we saw coming and we were stunned, hurt and shocked for the first few months after the incident. As time went on, the situation became legal and we had a choice to make, we could try to recoup our financial losses (which were substantial) or we could try to recoup our financial losses plus bring a criminal case against our former friend. With no hesitation we both rejected the idea of a criminal suit. Our lawyer did not understand but we did not care. How would this person, with a family and small children, being in jail benefit us? It wouldn’t. We did not want revenge only restitution. (Which never came.)
That situation taught us many things about ourselves, our marriage and our family. The truth is that we had everything that matters; our health, each other and happy, healthy grown kids. I realized that if we had been forced to sell our home because of the money we lost, we would still have been OK. That situation made me realize that what I choose to focus on will grow. So instead of focussing on feeling victimized or hating on the other party, we both focussed on our profound gratitude for what was right in our life together.
You’ve all been hurt before because this is a part of life. You may have been wronged by a friend or a stranger. You all understand the pain that comes from being betrayed by another. You know the fear and anger that arises from being mistreated. You know the damage that words and actions can do.
It is what you choose to do after being injured by another that impacts your karma. You may feel a desire to retaliate or lash back. You could spend endless days crafting the perfect letter or speech you would deliver, if you ever saw that person again. You may tell yourself that you have a right to be enraged, perhaps even a right to hate. The truth is you have a right to feel however you feel. You also have a right to do (within accordance of the law) whatever you choose to do. Yet remember you sow what you reap. Every moment you focus on revenge is another moment of your life wasted. Trust me when I tell you,
When you act in alignment with love, love is what will come back to you. The same goes for hate, fear and revenge. Many people don’t recognize that being wronged does not give you a karma free pass for bad behavior. I believe there is a universal moral code of ethics by which we all must abide. That code is based on love. When you stray from love, no matter what the reason may be, you feel the effects. It may be guilt, anxiety, regret, loss and pain. Or you may stay forever trapped in a bitterness prison of your own design.
Today in honor of our conversation about karma, I invite you to commit to Deepak’s suggestions about living the law of cause and effect:
I will put the Law of Karma into effect by making a commitment to take the following steps:
1. Today I will witness the choices I make in each moment. And in the mere witnessing of these choices, I will bring them to my conscious awareness. I will know that the best way to prepare for any moment in the future is to be fully conscious in the present.
2. Whenever I make a choice, I will ask myself two questions: “What are the consequences of this choice that I’m making?” and “Will this choice bring fulfillment and happiness to me and also to those who are affected by this choice?”
3. I will then ask my heart for guidance and be guided by its message of comfort or discomfort. If the choice feels comfortable, I will plunge ahead with abandon. If the choice feels uncomfortable, I will pause and see the consequences of my action with my inner vision. This guidance will enable me to make spontaneously correct choices for myself and for all those around me.
I am always interested in your thoughts so please share your stories below of creating your own karma, good or bad. Let’s keep the conversation going in the comments. I look forward to learning more about you. May you align with good karma this week, keeping your side of the street clean. And as always, take care of you.
Love Love Love
*image courtesy of ihatethenewlayout